Vent it Out (before the "Mom Rage" sets in)
The New York Times recent article on Mom Rage confirmed my hunch, we’re piling more and more on but not giving ourselves the space to vent it out. Of course there’s rage! Where else would that pent up energy go?
You need to Vent.
Vent:
1. an opening that allows air, gas, or liquid to pass out of a confined space (aka quarantining with your family for months under stressful circumstances)
2. the expression or release of a strong emotion, energy, etc.
Venting vs Complaining - They’re different
Like many women I know - I am a very verbal person. You too? We like to discuss things - in detail. If I don’t like a situation, I talk about it, then I work out how to fix it. Oftentimes this can be first misconstrued as complaining, but I think we are just craving to be heard. In my house, my partner who is on the phone all day, isn’t always up for a vent session with me. But the frustration is going to come up and out one way or another - especially now.
Us Moms are typically the Chief Logistics Officer of our households. Being the CLO is a hefty job in itself, add on actual parenting, cleaning, cooking, shopping, bathing and regardless if you’re a working mom or not, your plate is very full. Enter Covid-19, we’re doing an absurd amount of things but often feel bad complaining because we have it “good”. Are most of us quite fortunate? Yes. Is it ok to be frustrated even though we have our basic needs met? Also - yes.
We need to speak out our frustrations to see all the elements that are standing in our path toward happiness. As long as we’re committed to bettering ourselves and our situation - how can venting be bad?
It doesn’t make a whole lot of sense to complain just to complain, but if you're venting because you're trying to resolve something that’s not working then I say - vent away. And if no one will listen to you and help bounce solutions around, then contact me, because I will. Like Marie Forleo says, Everything is Figureoutable - and I’m here to help you figure it out, in fact it’s one of my gifts - pulling up through the weeds to see the light. Even in tough times, we are here to grow and experience more joy. Yes, joy for parents! So let’s get some - together.
Introducing private Vent Sessions with Karen
Session 1: I listen to you without judgment. Hear all that you have going on. Breath. I acknowledge you and all your efforts. Show you compassion, and show you how to have compassion for yourself. Then, we pinpoint the changes that would have the most positive impact on your current situation. I help you come up with solutions to make this change a reality with practical steps that will benefit you and your whole family.
Session 2: I follow up with you on your progress to keep you on track. I help you through stumbling blocks, tweak what’s necessary, give you the courage to go after what you need
I have some Thursday afternoon and evening spots available - grab one and Vent It Out to a Mom that gets it, hears you and sees you - without judgement. We’ll work through your challenge(s) together and come up with a practical solution that will work for you and your family.
$150 introductory summer offer: 2 sessions for the price of one. Book yours today!
Rooting for us all.
With love,
Karen
Have you checked out our Slow & Simple Summer Guide yet? Full of tons of things to help take the edge off.
Karen Cook is a mom of two young girls living with her husband and family in Southern California. Founder and Chief Experience Officer of The Wyldflower Collective - a parent focused community providing resources and joy-filled events and family retreats with an on-site supervised kids club - so we can catch a breath. Parents have the hardest job in the world - we’re here to support you along the way. Follow us at: www.instagram.com/thewyldflowerco